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Who Am I?

Welcome to Confused To Confident Where You Can Answer The Question, "Who Am I?"

Hello all you wonderful women. Knowing who you are and who you want to be, is the key to becoming an amazing, confident, woman. Rarely do any of us take the time to sit down and figure out if we really like who we are but it’s one of the most crucial things we need to do. You must like yourself! Knowing, and liking, who you are, is very important if you are to enjoy life.


Who Are You Chained To?

If you met someone who was really irritating you, you'd probably try to avoid them as much as possible. Imagine if you had to be chained to them every day and night, it might be difficult to be happy. That’s what’s happening if you don’t truly like who you are. If you don’t like yourself, it'll be difficult to lead a happy life. 

Most people are comfortable with most aspects of themselves but there are very few people who like everything about who they are. Today's activity will start you on the first step of fully liking who you are.

Finding Out Who You Are

Before you can determine if you like who you are, you need to figure out who you are. Not what you do but who you are! What do you believe in, what makes you happy, how do you see yourself, how do others see you? If you have no idea how to answer those questions you have a little bit of work ahead of you. If you have a general idea, take some time to fine tune it, get very specific.

Ideally you could take a weekend at a posh hotel, with a view of the beach from your room, and return home with very specific knowledge of who you are and who you want to be, but, if you’re like most of us and only have 15 minutes over lunch while you chew on your tuna wrap, that will work too.

Just get started and work towards a complete picture as soon as possible. After all, why would you want to spend another minute being someone you don’t like; it’s better to be all you would want to be, isn’t it? You can use this week’s activity to help you get started.

Not Setting Goals

To be clear, you are not looking to fulfill goals or achieve all your desires here, although both of these things are a part of what will happen as you go. What you are doing is figuring out how to most fully enjoy the process of everything you do by first loving yourself. Life is made to enjoy and if you are not enjoying at least 90% of the minutes you live, you need to make changes. After doing the activity you should know if one of those changes includes making changes in who you are or how you see yourself. 

What You Will Learn From The Activity

There are two sets of activities you can do this week, the quick, online, version, or the printable extended version. It’s best if you do the extended version but even doing just the quick activity will give you a better idea on what makes you who you are.

The activity will also show you how far you are from where you want to be. This is very helpful since we all like to know how far it is and how long it’s going to take to get somewhere.

Just like travel time depends a lot on the traffic, the time it will take to get to your life’s ideal self, will depend a lot on how busy you are and how much time you're willing to commit to the process. You will, however, have a good idea of how much work it's going to take to get there, how far you need to go.

Just know, that the sooner you arrive to living your life as a person you admire, the better life you will have. Being the person you want to be builds the confidence you need to start experiencing the best there is in life.

Activity - Who Am I?

If you only have a few minutes, try the Quick Activity, if you have more time, or want to print off a more in-depth version, I would suggest you have the full activity emailed to you and print it out. Making printed copies works well for re-doing the activity in a few months to see how you have progressed too.

Step 1

​Look at each pair of personality traits below and write down which one in each pair sounds most like you. Remember to pick the one that represents who you are, not who you wish you were.


The exercise should be done quickly, spending only a couple of seconds for each choice. Using your first reaction usually gives the best results.

If you get stuck on one, move past it and come back to it at the end. When you revisit it, see if one of the terms is something you don’t like about others. Often the things that we don’t like about others are the same things we don’t like about ourselves.


High Energy - Low Key

Animated - Relaxed​

Loud - Quiet​

Brave - Shy​

Intense - Mild​

Bold - Meek​

Activity - Rest​

Neat - Grungy​

Charming - Abrasive​

Casual - Classy​

Step 2

Once you have a list of your personality traits, go back through and determine which trait you admire most in each set and write it down. 


Don't look at the first answers you wrote down, just go through the list fresh and write which trait most appeals to you.

Step 3

Now compare the lists. Are the personality traits you admire the same ones you feel you have? If so great! If not, you have a couple of choices. Look at which traits are different; taking one at a time, decide if you want to follow up with choice 1 or 2.

Choice One:

You want to change that trait about yourself.

Choice Two:

You want to change the perception you have about that trait.


If you desire order but live in chaos you may choose to take steps to be more organized. This would be changing who you are to better fit what you admire.

If you are complex and envy people who are easy-going, you may want to change your perception and learn to embrace your complexity.

Look at which changes would most help you be who you want to be. Don’t shy away from ones that may seem too difficult to change, just let your dreams go wild and choose your greatest desire. Liking who you are is too important to put off just because it may seem to be a challenge changing.

How To Make The Changes

If you do the activity this week you'll have a start in finding joy in life. This activity can be tough, especially if you do the extended version, but it's so worth it. I'm not giving you the steps to make the changes now because I want you to have time to make choices on what changes you are going to make. Next week we'll go a step further and work on the process of moving from where you are to where you want to be. You have a destination, next week you'll create a map on how to get there.

If you are completely happy with who you are today, that’s great! Check out next week's post to find out how to get started improving other areas of your life.

Let me know if you tried the "Who Am I" activity by commenting below.